Category Archives: Marriage

What a year.

Posted on January 3, 2019 by Vaughan Granier

Usually, looking back on a year is something I leave to the bloggers and the self-absorbed. This time feels different. So, at the risk of being a self-absorbed blogger, let me just say that 2018 sucked in so many freaking … Continue reading →

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Healing from our Hurt

Posted on December 3, 2018 by Vaughan Granier

A well known story: “A teacher was teaching her class … and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take a piece of paper. Then she told them to crumple it up, stomp on it, and … Continue reading →

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Being All There

Posted on March 30, 2016 by Vaughan Granier

It was very sobering realising that my choices and routines did not just set the rhythm and stability of my world, but that they equally  affected the rhythm and stability of every life that was intimately connected with mine. Especially … Continue reading →

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Lives out of balance

Posted on March 29, 2016 by Vaughan Granier

I am currently unemployed, and I guess this has in many ways given me a completely different set of stimuli to deal with. I have nothing grandiose to say about my work, as much as I love it; I didn’t … Continue reading →

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Redundancy Thoughts : Empathy

Posted on February 18, 2016 by Vaughan Granier

We HR folks are always running into extreme personality types, at one point or another. That’s the lot of a change agent. A CEO might view an organisation and see a group of people, with the ones he or she … Continue reading →

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Thoughts on Accountability

Posted on February 11, 2016 by Vaughan Granier

Every time I read about accountability in the media, its about someone holding someone else accountable for the bad/naughty/inconsiderate thing they have done. We have a watchdog mentality, where someone, or some group of people, seems to be designated to … Continue reading →

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A Marriage open to growth

Posted on November 11, 2014 by Vaughan Granier

Recently my wife and I were talking about some marriage stuff.  🙂 We have different styles of communicating, and we sometimes miss out on seeing each other’s good intentions as we work through the usual dynamics of a relationship. We … Continue reading →

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8 simple ways to reduce stress

Posted on April 1, 2014 by Vaughan Granier

I have a few bad habits that can easily increase my stress levels, and a large part of managing my emotional and mental well-being is in dealing with these bad habits and other things, that add stress to what could … Continue reading →

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A Safe Place?

Posted on November 12, 2013 by Vaughan Granier

They say a ship is safe in the harbour, but a ship is not built for the harbour, it is built for the open sea… They also say one cannot discover uncharted shores, unless one loses sight of one’s familiar … Continue reading →

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20 things I have learned from marriage so far

Posted on November 1, 2013 by Vaughan Granier

I have learned that my wife’s trust is a thing never deserved but graciously given. And it must be nurtured like a fragile flower or it retreats to safety. I learned that creating a new normal for us was hard, … Continue reading →

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